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"Women can't hear what men don't say"

Warren Farrell Ph.D.

Canadian Tour '99

Victoria Workshop

Sunday November 21

YM-YWCA  880 Courtney, Victoria BC

Who is Warren Farrell Ph.D.?


Dr. Warren Farrell is the author of many books, including two award-winning international best-sellers, Why Men Are The Way They Are plus The Myth of Male Power. His most recent book is Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say, which is a Book-of-the-Month Club selection. His books are published in more than 50 countries, and in 9 languages.

            Dr. Farrell listens to both sexes: On the one hand, he has served on the boards of four national men’s and fathers’ organizations; and on the other, he is the only man in the US to ever have been elected three times to the Board of Directors of the National Organization for Women (N.O.W.) in New York City. Dr. Farrell is also the only person selected to speak at former California Governor Wilson’s Conference on Men as well as his Conference on Women.

            Over a period of twenty-five years, Warren has formed over 600 women’s and men's groups and has worked with more than a quarter million men and women from all walks of life. The Chicago Tribune described Warren as “the Gloria Steinem of Men's Liberation.” The Boston Globe calls him “the sage of the men’s movement.” Take your pick.

            Dr. Farrell has taught at the School of Medicine at the University of California in San Diego, as well as at Georgetown University, Rutgers, Brooklyn College, American University, and the California School of Professional Psychology. He has taught in political science, psychology, sociology, sexual politics, and public administration.

            In 1965, President Johnson recognized Warren as one of the nation's outstanding young educators. Warren later served as an assistant to the president of New York University and received NYU’s highest honor for his Ph.D. thesis on changing men's roles and behavior in response to women’s roles. More currently, he has been selected for inclusion in Who’s Who in America, 2000-2001.

            Warren has appeared eight times on Donahue, and repeatedly on the Oprah Winfrey Show, as well as on the ABC World News with Peter Jennings, the Today Show with Barbara Walters, 20/20, Crossfire, and Larry King Live.

            Warren has been featured in People and on Real People; in Time and The New York Times; on the CBS Morning News and Good Morning, America; on Geraldo and To Tell The Truth. He has written for publications ranging from Psychology Today to the World Book Encyclopedia; from Cosmopolitan to Ms.; from Glamour to journals of sociology and psychology.

            Warren currently resides in Encinitas, a seaside community in San Diego’s North County.

'Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say' Workshop Description


I’ve never heard a couple say, “Warren, I want a divorce – my partner understands me.”

            Whether in a poor Brazilian tribe or a wealthy Colorado suburb, when boys do not express their feelings, everyone pays a price. The price is not just suicide or homicide, but divorces – the death of love. Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say helps us see how we discourage our boys and men from expressing feelings even as we say we want them to express feelings.

            Women Can’t Hear What Men Don’t Say identifies our inability to handle personal criticism as the Achilles’ heel of most relationships – not only with our significant other, but with co-workers, family, and friends. Group participation experiences assist both sexes in giving and receiving personal criticism.

            Dr. Farrell takes us on a journey through newspapers, television, films, the education system, government publications, the helping professions, and even greeting cards to show us how men’s life experiences are distorted. We can feel how these distortions affect our relationships toward our husbands, fathers, and sons.

            Dr. Farrell integrates these observations with role-reversal exercises in which the sexes “walk a mile in each other’s moccasins” to understand each other – not just intellectually, but emotionally. As each participant “becomes” the other sex, the laughter transforms criticism into compassion. For example, women who feel critical of “men’s fear of commitment and intimacy,” or men’s “preoccupation” with sex and success, or men’s “inability to listen” experience compassion for men’s perspective. Conversely, men who feel critical of what they perceive to be women’s anger at men and women’s desire “to have their cake and eat it, too” feel compassion for women’s perspective.

            A common response to Dr. Farrell’s presentation is: “I’ve never felt so much love for the other sex.”

"For women and men who want greater effectiveness at the office and more love at home. Perceptive… Outspoken.. Courageous. Replace the handcuffs of political correctness with understanding and dialogue."

—Martin Edelston. President. Boardroom. Inc. and Editor. Bottom Line/Personal

"I learned more from the first 100 pages of this book than [from] anything [else] I've never read about how to communicate in a relationship. For the first time in my life I know how to have a meaningful conversation with a man that will actually bring him closer. I plan to re-read the first 100 pages once a month for at least the first five years of my marriage."

-Cathy Guisewate. Syndicated cartoonist, Cathy

"I’m saying — no I’m shouting to women and men to read this book. Warren Farrell is a true "Renaissance” man with penetrating insights and laser accurate perspectives who sees both the Yin and Yang. He is our spokesperson not merely to women, but more poignantly to our own male souls which we have been so afraid to expose and share."

    Denis Waitley. Ph.D. Author. The Psychology of Winning

"Warren Farrell has given us a gift by writing Women Can’t hear What Men Don’t Say’. He points us to the only way to end the battle of the sexes in the 21st Century."

—Karen DeCrow. Attorney; Former President, National Organization for Women (NOW)

Some of the Questions You'll Have The Answers to

  • What is the single biggest solution to violence by boys?

  • What are the predictors of men committing suicide and homicide together?

  • How do I make sure the love of my life stays the love of my life?

  • How can you become your husbands' emotional mentor?

  • What is the single most-overlooked secret to a happy Family?


Updated on:30/06/00 09:39 PM

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